It’s pretty easy to make friends when traveling to a new place. Everyone is out of their element, feeling a little overwhelmed and eager to meet new people who want to share similar experiences. I’ve said it before - traveling, especially solo-traveling, leads to that kind of kindergarten atmosphere again where everyone’s walking up to each other asking if you want to be friends. It’s amazing and so easy to bond with the people you meet at your hostel or on your group tour.
I’ve had a lot of good experiences using this theory, whether it’s been checking out local pubs in England with backpackers from our hostel or becoming close with the group I explored the rainforest with in Australia, so I decided to give it another try in Copenhagen. I arrived at my hostel around 10 a.m., but check-in wasn’t till 2. I had some time to kill, and even though I was running on about 3 hours of sleep and wasn’t feeling super outgoing, I decided to strike up a conversation with a couple guys I could tell were American who had just checked-in as well.
Funny story, turns out we were on the exact same flight from Toronto to Copenhagen, and they had just happened to book the same hostel about 30 minutes before arriving. I guess my “making friends meter” was pretty accurate because they were as eager to make friends as I was, and we quickly began touring the city together.
We struggled through the cultural barriers of finding lunch in a new city and bonded over the shock of paying $20 each for a lunch we weren’t quite sure about. We struggled to read a map and found a random tower to hike up, followed by a much deserved nap. After passing out for a few hours and struggling to dry my hair under the hand dryer, we decided to meet-up for the evening at the hostel’s happy hour, which seemed to be the go-to scene for everyone staying in the hostel. Drinks were good and cheap, and the atmosphere was amazing.
Everyone was eager to explore Copenhagen and make new friends, and it became easy to walk up to some random guy sitting by himself on a couch and strike up a conversation. Which is exactly what Blake and Jeff did, and it worked out in our favor because we made a new British friend. And it turns out he’d already made friends with a bunch of guys from Belgium, Portugal, etc. That one chance encounter of meeting a random Brit led us to a group of 5 more friends who we spent the night hanging out with.
Traveling alone can be awkward and intimidating at first. It makes you feel vulnerable in a way we typically avoid as adults. Make it easier on yourself - take a group trip or stay in a hostel. If I hadn’t branched out and talked to the two guys checking in at the same time, I would have missed out on so much. I might not have ventured out of my room at night, I wouldn’t have spent my few hours in Sweden laughing as one of the guys fell in the river, and while my trip would have still been great, I probably wouldn’t look back on it with quite as many fond memories. So don’t be afraid to travel on your own and don’t be afraid to get out of your comfort zone by talking to new people. It might just change your trip for the better.
Bring on the dramamine - Personally, neither of us had any problems with seasickness (although the boat rocking on the first night was a little trippy), but nothing could be worse than being sick while you’re stuck in the middle of the ocean. Bring a little stock just in case - better safe than sorry.
Don’t miss all the fun activities - We spent most nights in the night club dancing and hanging out with the few young people we met along the way, and it was easy to forget about all the other awesome activities going on each night. There are some super talented people providing entertainment on the cruise, so make sure to take time to go see them. Go see a comedian or take in one of the performances going on. There’s a whole itinerary for you to enjoy each day, so take advantage of it. But also make sure you give yourself time to enjoy the things you really want to see instead of rushing around trying to be part of everything.
Don’t be shy - Some of our favorite memories from the cruise were the people we met. Our favorite place to meet people? The 21 and over hot tub. Instead of being surrounded by families, you finally get some space to enjoy other adults.
And let’s be real...what’s better than enjoying the tropical weather, tasty drinks and some quality conversation in a hot tub overlooking the ocean? Instead of being awkward or keeping to yourself, talk with the people sitting next to you. We met people we ran into every other day on the cruise ship and who spent the whole trip joking around with us.
Explore the boat - There are all kinds of hidden gems around the boat-from the mini golf on the top deck to the 21+ deck/hot tub. Hit up the different bars (which offer different drinks and specials), join the line of kids and ride down the waterslide, then head to a comedy club or to the lounge for a performance. Also try the nightclub, piano bar and the room where there’s always karaoke.
Try an excursion at one of the ports - We picked one excursion to go on, which was perfect because booking a trip at both could get a little pricey. This gave us a break from the boat to do something fun, but also gave us time to explore the islands as well.
Recently I decided it was time for (another) change. After job searching, writing more cover letters than I care to remember and making trips for interviews that ended with a job that just didn’t check all the boxes, I decided to go back to school for an MBA. Taking online classes left me with a pretty flexible schedule, so once I quit, one of my former co-workers and I decided to escape the cold weather and head south for a cruise to the Bahamas.
I guess I should start by explaining how I chose a cruise to the Bahamas. Honestly, when I started doing some mini trip research, the Bahamas wasn't even on my radar. We started looking at trips to resorts in Mexico, but as you can imagine, those got a bit pricey. It only took a little Google searching to start finding other, more budget friendly options (like cruises). There's tons of cruise lines, so it's pretty easy to find one that has exactly what you're looking for at the right price. Obviously, not having jobs meant that we had to be conscious of our budget. So how did we book a 4 day cruise to paradise without breaking the bank?
As of October, I've solo traveled in 3 continents: Europe, Australia and North America. So now that I've got a little experience under my belt, here are some of the things I noticed about traveling solo around the globe:
Sharing a common language definitely made navigating the cities easier, and there was decent public transport within the big cities, although it was pretty pricey to get around.
Europe has the best public transport by far, but if you're traveling to a country where you don't speak the language, it can be a bit tricky to navigate by yourself. There were some cities where I definitely would have been lost without having Lexa to figure things out with.
What To Do if Your Phone Gets Stolen
2. Get ahold of family and friends to let them know what's going on. Sometimes it's difficult to access some of the accounts or get ahold of the people you need to contact in order to solve the problem while abroad, so having someone from home do it can be a huge help. If you get a particularly nasty thief, like I did, your parents might be freaking out over the weird text messages they're receiving, so give them some peace of mind and send them an email or use a friend's phone to let them know what happened.
3. Once you have access to a computer, log out of all social media accounts, mobile banking apps and email accounts (make sure to log out on all devices) and then change your passwords. Although most phone thieves are probably just looking to make some money by selling your iPhone, they might try hacking your accounts to find credit card info, bank info, passwords or contact friends/family for money.
Helpful Tips to Keep Your Phone From Getting Stolen
Most big, touristy cities are notorious for scammers and pickpockets. When my phone got stolen, I had spent all day being extremely cautious about my phone, my bag, etc. but I let my guard down for one second in a very busy area, and the next thing I knew, it was gone. I fell prey to a teenage girl asking for directions. When she laid her map on my table, she distracted me (and my entire table) long enough to grab my phone without anyone noticing. Here's a couple tips for keeping something like this from happening to you:
We got to see some crazy, beautiful places, but these can be some of the most dangerous places when it comes to pickpockets
Excursions vs. flying solo: What's your planning style?
One of the most exciting, and honestly frustrating, parts of traveling is the planning. Once the dates are set, it's easy to get swept up in the fantasy of your perfect trip. Well slow down there eager beaver; there's still a lot to do. It took Caroline and I a solid three months to coordinate our route through the U.K.
Whether you're taking a solo trip through Southeast Asia or just hanging out in Italy for a week, the most important thing to do is figure out transportation. Nothing is a bigger mood killer than being stranded because you didn't research train times beforehand. Here are a few tips that kept us sane during our backpacking trip:
Now that we've covered tackling the monster of transportation, let's get to the fun stuff: planning day-to-day activities. There's two ways to go-creating an itinerary by yourself or picking an excursion. My recommendation is to go with both so you can figure out which goes with your travel personality. Throughout our trip, Caroline and I did a combination because we liked the spontaneity of picking our own activities and also liked the convenience of being toured around by an expert. Not sure which option is for you? Here's a pros & cons breakdown:
Living in another country also reminded us that people measure success and happiness in different ways. A lot of Spaniards live with their families into their late twenties, which is almost taboo in the U.S. We also met young travelers with our same idea of traveling before being tied down by jobs, relationships, etc.-which helped us validate our decision and not feel so alone about going against the grain.
The "College to Real World" transition isn't talked about
After 20+ years of schooling, getting that diploma doesn't just mean graduating, but a complete shift in lifestyle. Some choose grad/med school, a gap year (woot woot!), or starting that first job. But no one talks about the transition: like how intense more school is, how tedious job searching becomes or the struggles of adapting to a 9-5 work life. Not to mention that many of us are paying bills for the first time, keeping a budget and probably living in a new city.
Honestly, we have no idea why this life change isn't the most talked about...so make the change yourself! Whenever I network, I'll ask for just general life advice, which always leads to an interesting conversation. Some of my mentors have told me to be careful when choosing my first job-because it's easy to get stuck in an industry when you're comfortable-while another talked about how to look at my first salary (what you need to live vs. what you want, i.e. a financial goal).
When you think of your friend studying abroad, what comes to mind? Most likely it's the gorgeous photos featured on her Instagram or stories of country-hopping on the weekends. While going abroad includes seeing beautiful places, gorging on delicious food and having total freedom, it's so much more.
Nowadays employers are looking for unique candidates-so put those travel stories to good use! Here are four skills from studying abroad that can make you standout in an interview and land that dream job:
1. Having superior people skills
Let's face it, everyone likes comfort. It's tough to actively approach new people when you're surrounded by friends. Making new connections can be awkward, nerve wracking and sometimes embarrassing. But all travelers have something in common....traveling! When you're exploring tourist hotspots, it's natural that you'll strike up conversations with people from all over the world. Travelers are usually more open to hearing your stories and you'll be excited to hear about their adventures too.
Soon, YOU will be the one confident enough to spontaneously start conversations. While not all of the people we met were wonderful conversationalists, we learned how to overcome awkwardness, find commonalities and just enjoy someone else's company. These moments with other travelers are so fleeting, that it's a great opportunity to practice connecting with someone without social pressures.
How to use this skill:
Interviews can be intimidating. Trying to give off a great first impression to a stranger can make even the most confident person insecure. But your potential new boss is just like that guy you met on the train to Budapest: a regular person. This is your moment to put those international people skills to use and hone into the "traveler" version of yourself-relaxed, personable and self-assured.
2. Solving real world problems
A typical interview question is, "How do you handle challenges or overcome obstacles?" Candidates can easily drum up a story from college on how his/her marketing group had to work with a tough client to pass a class. Guess what? Everyone has done that. Show your interviewers a little flare and personality by telling them about that time you lost your luggage in Switzerland and only survived off of 50 euro for the weekend.
How to use this skill:
Showing how you navigated a mishap in a foreign country speaks volumes about your character and how you handle stressful situations. Another plus is that it happened in the real world. Not in a classroom setting, for a grade or as part of an internship. It's a unique way to show off your levelheadedness and problem solving skills on the spot, while also giving them a taste of who you are as a person, not a student.
Many high school and college grads dream about celebrating that special day with a rite of passage backpacking trip through Europe. I mean that's what you see on TV shows (I'm talking about Gilmore Girls). It's an exciting dream to be young and carefree with a backpack. Sorry to spoil that dream, but backpacking isn't as glamorous as what you see on Instagram. Our backpacking trip through the U.K. taught us some valuable lessons on how not to break our backs or our spirits.
Use these tips to find your perfect bag:
How to get a permit
If you’re a member of AAA, that is your easiest and cheapest route to getting an international driver’s license. I went to the nearest AAA office, filled out a form, showed my driver’s license, gave them two copies of a passport sized photo and paid $20. I walked out about 15 minutes later with a driving permit valid in about 150 countries worldwide.
If you don't have AAA, my suggestion would be to head to your local DMV and ask how you can apply for an international driver's license in your state.